Gordon_Nugget
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Post by Gordon_Nugget on Dec 29, 2002 21:00:41 GMT -5
[glow=orange,2,300]That my friends is true.......it's like a situation I'm in at the moment.[/glow]
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Chloe
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Post by Chloe on Dec 30, 2002 8:24:44 GMT -5
What? You can't commit, or you're scared?
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Post by Get F***ed on Dec 30, 2002 11:24:53 GMT -5
Or too scared to commit? That can be a big one.
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Post by Gordon_Nugget on Dec 30, 2002 20:09:57 GMT -5
What? You can't commit, or you're scared? I can commit...but just scared of trying. Heres my situation........I have a crush (how sad is that at 18 years of age) on friend of mine Katie. I want to ask her out and tell her how i feel about her, but I don't want to ruin a perfectly good friendship. She's a really special girl but I don't want to lose her over some feeling that is probably useless to her, anyway.
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Post by Gordon_Nugget on Dec 30, 2002 20:19:03 GMT -5
P.S Shes wayyyyyyyyyy too good for me.
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Post by Chloe on Jan 5, 2003 8:11:57 GMT -5
I won't tell you that you have just answered your own question (not that you really had a question... but anyway, moving on). Sounds like a serious case of the 'Fine Line'. A predicament you are not the first to experience and most probably won't be the last! I myself have been there and done that... twice in fact. With one I am better friends with now that I was before we went out. The other... We learnt a lot of things about each other we had chosen not to see before. And four months later... we are only just starting to talk again. Things aren't the same though and I don't expect they ever will be. Sometimes you have to take risks. Who knows, maybe Katie feels the same way and has never said anything. What I will say though, is that there is a fine line between best friends and boy/girl friend. And once you cross that line, it's up to both of you to maintain the friendship part. Or it will fall apart very quickly. And it is never the same. But you may never know if you don't take a risk. Get it off your chest at the very least. Not on a public forumn though!! I can't see her appreciating that.
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Post by Chloe on Jan 5, 2003 8:28:24 GMT -5
Smurf Boy was on the right track, for a change!
And no, I don't make it a regular thing to counsel complete strangers. I've had enough therapy to last a lifetime.
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Post by Get F***ed on Jan 5, 2003 9:31:16 GMT -5
Yeah, don't leave it until it's too late, and she goes away, or gets a boyfriend, etc.
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Post by Gordon_Nugget on Jan 5, 2003 21:05:33 GMT -5
Not on a public forumn though!! I can't see her appreciating that. Well I thought I killed the convo.....again. Then the advice comes.....thanks people. Well I would never normally open up like that. I don't even remember writing that. LOL. Well Thanks everyone.
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Post by Thomas on Jan 5, 2003 22:22:01 GMT -5
Well, if she is your friend, then try discussing it with her, it would go down better then just jumping on her. It will be weird, but its a lot easier to get over the weirdness with a friend, as long as you don't shut up shop and avoid her.
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Post by Gordon_Nugget on Jan 6, 2003 4:34:52 GMT -5
But there is no way, easing that kinda thing on someone. Either you tell them or you don't tell them. Either they know or they don't. Right, that my way of thinking. Althought most of the time I'm wrong.
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Post by Chloe on Jan 7, 2003 8:37:07 GMT -5
James, that would have to be one of the few sensible things I have ever heard come out of your mouth. Or in this case, from your computer.
I have to agree with him Nugget. You'll feel better for opening up to her about it. And if she is the friend you say she is, she won't hate you for telling her how you feel!
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Post by Thomas on Jan 7, 2003 11:29:39 GMT -5
Yeah well, i was just trying to give the kid some confidence. The truth probably is that there is only one thing worse then not having a higher level relationship then you want, and that is not having a relationship at all.
I think that if i was in your position i would just ignore any thoughts that go beyond a friendship, not make a move, and regret it for the rest of my life.
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Post by Thomas on Jan 7, 2003 11:33:09 GMT -5
Thats not a suggestion for you by the way, i'm just rambling on about my own stupidity.
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Post by Chloe on Jan 7, 2003 13:02:02 GMT -5
And he's probably speaking for the majority.
However, be sure before you open your mouth. If she is the type to taunt you once she knows how you feel... then don't tell her. Because that is nothing short of tortue. Believe me.
Then you can get the whole "I want a relationship with you, but not now" thing... And it never happens. Or "I really like you, but I'm joining the airforce next year so I don't want commitment". Which is a load of crap, it is just seen as a more humane means of letting you down.
The only other alternative is... leave the country. Or get drunk (or in my case don't get drunk, eat sherbert), hook up with her, regret it, then realise shes not the person you thought she was and hate her for it. It's all a very elongated process.
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